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WHAT LEAD ME HERE

(A wordy explanation of my writing history and the purpose of this blog) …

Hello and welcome to my ramblings in the world of Progress.

What Lead Me Here

(A wordy explanation of my writing history and the purpose of this blog)

I have loved writing since I learned what it felt like to do it outside of homework assignments.

I kept notebooks everywhere full of fiction, journals, ideas, and whatever else came to mind that I thought someone might be interested in reading some day. When (now ancient) sites like Myspace and LiveJournal gained popularity, I created accounts and communicated my feelings in vague ways that hinted at, but didn’t completely reveal what I wanted to communicate.

After high school, I stopped writing as much. I would pick it up here and there but as the blogging world and opinion/information sharing has blown up, I have wanted to start a blog of my own. I have many interests and consider myself an expert in everything…

in all honesty, I know as much as Jon Snow…i.e. nothing in the grand scheme of things. But I’m fairly skilled at locating information.

So it turns out, creating anything that wasn’t just a Dear Diary blog was difficult to nail down. It wasn’t until I started to see a common theme in many of my conversations that I decided on a focus for my own site.

I used to think that I had bad luck.

I thought that my current situation was there as a result of the things that had happened to me. One day, something changed. I can’t exactly pinpoint when it happened, but my perspective completely shifted and I realized that I had complete control over the world I lived in and how I viewed it. I realized that my life is not what has happened to me, but rather, my life is how I react to those things (and it always has been).

“We become what we think about.” -Earl Nightingale

I started adding more physical activity to my life and as I write this in Oct. of 2016 I have lost 70 lbs. (maybe I should be blogging about that?)

I started appreciating people more and starting working on letting go of things that didn’t matter.

I started focusing on my own development and what I want.

As I heard the people around me share how upset they were by a multitude of different aspects of their life, I started helping share my new perspective with them through questions that pushed them to focus on actions they could take to change whatever was causing them trouble.

“We become what we think about.” -Earl Nightingale

Yes, I’m aware I posted the same quote twice, and I’m sure I’ll share this quote again.

What I continually hear people focusing on, and thinking about are all the reasons why that can’t be where they want to be, or why they can’t be who they want to be.

Thinking about those things turns those thoughts into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If I can help one person shift their focus to honest progress, then I’ll call it a win. That’s why I’m here. So, welcome. Read on, provide feedback, and contribute to the conversation. A smart woman once told me (thanks again, Bon) that you never know who needs to hear what you have to say.

So you had a bad day…

Bad day? Or week? Perhaps a bad month? I’ve had tons of them. At some point it should be noted that I haven’t always been the shining ray of positive energy that publishes the words before you…

Bad day? Or week? Perhaps a bad month? I’ve had tons of them. At some point it should be noted that I haven’t always been the shining ray of positive energy that publishes the words before you. I have had days where I felt like my life sucked and I had no control over the how things were playing out. There isn’t a violent bone in my body, but I do have many times where my thoughts wonder off onto how great it would be if I could randomly make banana peels appear in front of people that hurt me or people that I care about.

Side note: If you have ever seen Scrubs then just imagine a J.D. style daydream and you'll know how to tell when I have those moments.

Everyone has those days. So the challenge is in pulling yourself out of the rabbit hole of negativity and refocusing yourself.

The Tiny Buddha blog has a great article on Becoming more positive when negativity feels instinctive written by Elizabeth Patterson that can provide you with some effective ways to do this. She talks about how the way she responds to things is always her choice.

I can not stress this enough. This one reminder can change the way you feel about everything. You are only one person. That being said, there are many variables that you have n0 control over. You dont have any control over a lot of the things that happen to you.

Alternatively you do have complete control over how you choose to react to those things.

I went through something very difficult when I was 13 years old. When people reach those defining moments, moments that push you to your breaking point, my observations show that they can go a couple ways.

The two I have seen the most are:

They use it as an excuse to let their lives fall to crap.

OR

The person chooses to use it as motivation to do better for themselves, their family, and the others that they care about.

For me, I choose number 2… usually. It’s a choice that I face every day. I have to wake up and decide if I’m going to let circumstances dictate how I life that day, or if I’m going to choose to push back and make things a little better that day. Honestly, I don’t always make the better choice, but I can tell you that the days I do, everything is a little brighter.

Consequently, the choice is always yours. If you don’t feel strong enough to do it on your own, use your resources, ask for help. Not sure what help is available? Then use the contact form and I will be happy to share an abundance of resources to start with.

You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you do have control over how you react to it.