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WHAT LEAD ME HERE

(A wordy explanation of my writing history and the purpose of this blog) …

Welcome to my ramblings on what I’ve learned about progress.

What Lead Me Here

(A wordy explanation of my writing history and the purpose of this blog)

I have loved writing since I learned what it felt like to do it outside of homework assignments.

I kept notebooks everywhere full of fiction, journals, ideas, and whatever else came to mind that I thought someone might be interested in reading some day. When (now ancient) sites like Myspace and LiveJournal gained popularity, I created accounts and communicated my feelings in vague ways that hinted at, but didn’t completely reveal what I wanted to communicate.

After high school, I stopped writing as much. I would pick it up here and there but for a long time my desire to share my thoughts or opinions was replaced with Netflix. As the blogging world and opinion/information sharing has blown up, I’ve begun to wonder what it takes to create and manage a web site. I have many interests but when it come to being an expert, well, that isn’t really me.

in all honesty, when it comes to how much there is to know about anything…I know as much as Jon Snow… nothing.

So it turns out, creating anything that wasn’t just a Dear Diary Blog was difficult to nail down. It wasn’t until I started to see a common theme in many of my conversations that I decided on a focus for my own site.

I used to think that I had bad luck.

I thought that my current situation was as a result of the things that had happened to me. One day, something changed. I can’t exactly pinpoint when it happened, but my perspective completely shifted and I realized that I had control over the world I lived in and how I viewed it. The realization that my life is not what has happened to me, but rather, how I react to those things (and always has been) had a dramatic impact on my life.

“We become what we think about.” -Earl Nightingale

I stopped complaining. Looking at what was controllable, I began to take action. Results come from effort. Reading for intellectual development has been resulting in professional developmemy.  Adding more activity for physical development has resulted in 70 lbs of weight loss as of Oct.

I’ve started appreciating my life more while working on letting go of things that didn’t matter.

I HAVE STARTED on my own development and what I want.

As I heard the people around me share how upset they were by a multitude of different aspects of their life, I started sharing my new perspective with them. I tried to ask questions that pushed them to focus on actions they could take to change whatever was causing them trouble.

“We become what we think about.” -Earl Nightingale

Yes, I’m aware I posted the same quote twice, and I’m sure I’ll share this quote again.

What I continually hear people focusing on are all the reasons they can’t be who or where they want.

Think about why you can’t and the prophecy fulfills itself.

If I can help one person shift their focus to honest progress, then I’ll call it a win. That’s why I’m here. So, welcome. Read on, provide feedback, and contribute to the conversation. A smart woman once told me (thanks again, Bon) that you never know who needs to hear what you have to say.

So you had a bad day…

Bad day? Or week? Perhaps a bad month? I’ve had tons of them. At some point it should be noted that I haven’t always been the shining ray of positive energy that publishes the words before you…

Bad day? Or week? Perhaps a bad month? I’ve had tons of them. At some point it should be noted that I haven’t always been the shining ray of positive energy that publishes the words before you. I have had days where I felt like my life sucked and I had no control over the how things were playing out. There isn’t a violent bone in my body, but I do have many times where my thoughts wonder off onto how great it would be if I could randomly make banana peels appear in front of people that hurt me or people that I care about.

Side note: If you have ever seen Scrubs then just imagine a J.D. style daydream and you'll know how to tell when I have those moments.

Everyone has those days. So the challenge is in pulling yourself out of the rabbit hole of negativity and refocusing yourself.

The Tiny Buddha blog has a great article on Becoming more positive when negativity feels instinctive written by Elizabeth Patterson that can provide you with some effective ways to do this. She talks about how the way she responds to things is always her choice.

I can not stress this enough. This one reminder can change the way you feel about everything. You are only one person. That being said, there are many variables that you have n0 control over. You dont have any control over a lot of the things that happen to you.

Alternatively you do have complete control over how you choose to react to those things.

I went through something very difficult when I was 13 years old. When people reach those defining moments, moments that push you to your breaking point, my observations show that they can go a couple ways.

The two I have seen the most are:

They use it as an excuse to let their lives fall to crap.

OR

The person chooses to use it as motivation to do better for themselves, their family, and the others that they care about.

For me, I choose number 2… usually. It’s a choice that I face every day. I have to wake up and decide if I’m going to let circumstances dictate how I life that day, or if I’m going to choose to push back and make things a little better that day. Honestly, I don’t always make the better choice, but I can tell you that the days I do, everything is a little brighter.

Consequently, the choice is always yours. If you don’t feel strong enough to do it on your own, use your resources, ask for help. Not sure what help is available? Then use the contact form and I will be happy to share an abundance of resources to start with.

You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you do have control over how you react to it.