Bad day? Or week? Perhaps a bad month? I’ve had tons of them. At some point it should be noted that I haven’t always been the shining ray of positive energy that publishes the words before you. I have had days where I felt like my life sucked and I had no control over the how things were playing out. There isn’t a violent bone in my body, but I do have many times where my thoughts wonder off onto how great it would be if I could randomly make banana peels appear in front of people that hurt me or people that I care about.
Side note: If you have ever seen Scrubs then just imagine a J.D. style daydream and you'll know how to tell when I have those moments.
Everyone has those days. So the challenge is in pulling yourself out of the rabbit hole of negativity and refocusing yourself.
The Tiny Buddha blog has a great article on Becoming more positive when negativity feels instinctive written by Elizabeth Patterson that can provide you with some effective ways to do this. She talks about how the way she responds to things is always her choice.
I can not stress this enough. This one reminder can change the way you feel about everything. You are only one person. That being said, there are many variables that you have n0 control over. You dont have any control over a lot of the things that happen to you.
Alternatively you do have complete control over how you choose to react to those things.
I went through something very difficult when I was 13 years old. When people reach those defining moments, moments that push you to your breaking point, my observations show that they can go a couple ways.
The two I have seen the most are:
They use it as an excuse to let their lives fall to crap.
The person chooses to use it as motivation to do better for themselves, their family, and the others that they care about.
For me, I choose number 2… usually. It’s a choice that I face every day. I have to wake up and decide if I’m going to let circumstances dictate how I life that day, or if I’m going to choose to push back and make things a little better that day. Honestly, I don’t always make the better choice, but I can tell you that the days I do, everything is a little brighter.
Consequently, the choice is always yours. If you don’t feel strong enough to do it on your own, use your resources, ask for help. Not sure what help is available? Then use the contact form and I will be happy to share an abundance of resources to start with.